Difference between living in denial and being positive.

This have been in my head for some time and I just thought of blogging about it out of a sudden.

I think many of us live in denial but think they are being positive. At first, I really hate it when people say "hey, be positive, everything is going to be okay" because to me being positive equals to living in denial. But then when I start to question why the 'positiveness' I gain is so temporary? I thought it should actually make you feel better, stronger and wiser? I realize there is a difference between the two.

Example of living in denial :

"Ah, everything will be okay la. Your grades will be fine"
"Aiyah, he/she'll text/call me one lah, we're so meant to be together you know?"

And now see what a positive person will say instead :

"Its alright, I'll do better next time. It won't be good but I will work on it."
"Hmm, its alright, not the only fish I caught. Plenty out there! Not the right person, or maybe just wrong timing"

Living in denial gives you a taste of happiness. Temporarily, and then when reality kicks in, you start to feel all the insecurities you have and feel pretty damn depressed. Whereas if you stay positive and face the truth, it'll give you strength. Though, not many choose to face the truth and just see the brighter side of it. Its definitely tough but one thing I learn from being positive (not all the time I admit, I'm still human!) is that the happiness, confidence and satisfaction you gain is something real.

There's nothing wrong in living in denial, but wake up after maybe a few hours?

Something I yearn to do more :)

x
Jessica L.

Maybe most of the people
already know the difference,
I might be a lil slow.
But hey, I'm in my learning and growing stage.
This post reminds me
the importance of being positive. :)